The pressure to be thin enters girls’ minds at a very early age. At least half the girls between the ages of 11 and 13 see themselves as overweight. I actually WAS overweight at that age, yet most girls at that age are not and they have such a skewed view of what their bodies are supposed to look like. I remember my Barbie doll and thinking that I had to have a body like that. My father’s words still echo through my head, “Boys aren’t going to like you if you’re fat”. So seeing my Barbie dolls, all the movie stars and models in magazines growing up, I thought that if I didn’t look like that, I was worthless. Did you know that Barbie has a body shape that is actually impossible to attain? If Barbie were a real woman, she would be about 6 feet tall with a bust measurement of 39 inches, a waist of 18 inches and hips of 33 inches. Her weight would be about 110 pounds. If women were really built like Barbie, they would not be able to walk, have a menstrual cycle, give birth or breathe! Who the hell created this doll? A man? NO… a Woman! Ruth Handler from Mattel Toys, named the Barbie doll after her daughter, Barbara. Well, Thanks Ruth for helping to send me to therapy!
This world needs strong, powerful, nurturing women to balance out the masculine energy. Yet, so many women are silenced by their insecurities because of the messages they have received throughout their lifetime about what it means to be a female. Look at most fashion magazines today and you’ll see the pages filled with emaciated women, who our modern society thinks are beautiful. These air brushed women are FAKE! A little nip and tuck here and there and Viola! FAKE! We look at these images and think we have to look like those women to feel attractive or even worthy of love. It’s interesting that these magazines don’t publish disclaimers that the models work for hours with the world’s best hair and makeup artists, that the clothes are tailored to fit their exact shape and the photos are retouched. Blemishes are removed, cellulite airbrushed, and any extra fat from the belly, thighs and arms is erased. Now we think we have to roll out of bed looking like these FAKE photos! Men see these photos and are also brainwashed into thinking this is how the ideal woman is supposed to look.
Supermodels represent the cutting edge of what is supposed to be beautiful and desirable in a woman. But, they come from another planet. Typical models are thinner and taller than 99.9% of women. The average model is 5’11” and weighs 117 pounds. In the United States, the average woman is 5’4″ and weighs 165 pounds. To keep their jobs, models must maintain as little body fat as possible. The human body, especially the female body, is simply not designed to operate without body fat. It’s an inhuman concept. It’s amazing at how many women in this country are on a diet, trying to mold themselves into an artificially created cultural concept of what it means to be beautiful. Advertising encourages women to substitute food for love, while glamorizing images of borderline anorexic women. It’s so pathetic. All you need to do is learn to love and respect yourself and to take the time to listen to the needs of your body mind and soul. Notice the issues that are troubling you, and then invest the time and energy into fixing them.
I’ve worked really hard on my body and my health. Partly because of the words ringing in my head all my life that made me feel worthless and partly because once I started to get healthy, I started to feel Amazing! I stopped getting so sick and I was able to do things with my body that I was never able to do before. Now, I maintain my weight and my health because I want to continue to feel Amazing. I love the fact that I’m filled with natural energy in the morning and I just get up and go. I have fallen in love with eating clean and working out on a daily basis and if I miss a workout I actually feel really sad. I NEVER thought I would hear myself ever say that!!!! That’s coming from the girl who used to fall up the stairs because my legs were so heavy and always covered with bruises. I love that if I do get a cold it will only last for a few days and I don’t take any medications for it, I just let my body naturally heal itself. I do not look like a Barbie doll, I will never look like a Barbie doll and I do not want to be a Barbie doll. My body is strong and healthy and that is what makes me feel sexy.